The Pleasurelit Way
Written and read by Pleasurelit Patricia
Let me share a part of my book with you…
Imagine waking up every day feeling magnetic, deliciously alive, radiant in your skin, and deeply connected to yourself and others. You move through your day with confidence, flirting with the world and savouring each moment. Your days are filled with presence, purpose, and love.
You are led by pleasure. Feeling turned on in every moment—when you eat, breathe, speak, create, move, and play. Your body is a source of pleasure energy, and you explore and embrace pleasure unapologetically.
That’s what living The Pleasurelit Way is all about. It is a lifestyle and a way of being where your pleasure isn’t something you earn, it’s something you live and breathe. When you live pleasurelit, everything shifts.
You feel more confident in your skin, more present in your body, and more magnetic in your energy. You stop chasing and start to allow and receive.
You move differently. You love differently. You attract differently.
This book is your invitation to that version of you—the one who’s already within you, ready to claim their pleasure. The one who’s done playing small, self-abandoning, or settling for less.
Pleasurelit is a reclamation.
You’re exactly where you’re meant to be.
Pleasurelit is made from two words: “pleasure” and “lit.
The word pleasurelit was created in Germany on New Year’s Eve, 2023, when I was out on a walk with my dad's dog. I struggled with visiting Germany as this brought a lot of childhood memories and trauma experiences back to the surface. The days were dark, cold, and short, and I was far away from my own safe space. It was interesting to feel such a huge difference of pleasure between the day I left Australia compared to just a couple of days later in Germany; my “pleasure level” was moving from high to very low.
So, while walking the dog, I mindfully slowed down and focused on using all my senses. Taking a few deep breaths, I felt the stinging cold air on my face, heard the wind between the trees, and, with gratitude, admired the snowy forest in its winter beauty. I felt an orgasmic tingle through my whole body and smiled. In this moment I realised how important so many of my practices are to experience pleasure and I felt a strong desire to pursue this for the coming year. I wanted 2024 to be filled with more, and deeper, pleasure in all areas of my life. In that moment I spoke out loud into the cold winter day:
I want my life to be Pleasurelit.
Pleasure is a joyful experience. It can be felt inside and outside the bedroom. We all experience and define pleasure differently, because it is subjective. But overall, pleasure is something that feels good to you.
Lit is a slang word for something super exciting, excellent, or even intoxicating. For me, it is something that is on fire; it is “lit up” or at its highest level. Pleasurelit is your inner flame—where embodied self-love, erotic play, and conscious connections awaken your most magnetic, confident pleasure self. Pleasurelit is your pleasure experience at its peak. It doesn’t refer to just one type of pleasure, but rather a collective pleasure experience that affects all parts of your life. From the moment you wake up to the time you fall asleep, and even in your dreams, you can experience pleasure in every moment of your life. Above that, pleasurelit is a form of embodiment. You are a pleasure being. You have pleasure already within you—you just need some guidance on how to awaken, deepen, and widen that pleasure potential of yours.
Pleasure is your birthright, but also your responsibility. You probably didn’t see that coming, but it is true. Unless you make pleasure your priority, unless you choose pleasure every single day, unless you take charge of your pleasure experiences, your inner flame won’t burn.
You might ask yourself, How can I experience this when the world feels like a miserable place and The Pleasurelit Way seems impossible? First of all, you are not alone in this. I haven’t met anyone who hasn’t gone through some sort of challenge or struggle that made them feel like the world is a horrible place and that pleasure is something completely out of their reach. In fact, I have been there.
Let me take you back to when I was a young adult. I grew up experiencing family violence, abuse, and sexual assault. When I finally moved out of my childhood trauma environment into my first apartment, my self-esteem was low. I was looking desperately for love and external validation, to be seen and loved by others. I was a people pleaser who often said yes to things—and people—I wanted to say no to. Not long after I left home, I ended up in a Domestic Violence (DV) relationship. I had no idea about DV or narcissists at that time.
The “love bombing” got me hooked—finally someone loved me deeply, or so I thought. It sounds weird, but I felt comfortable in this relationship because it was known to me. The DV cycle and its drama felt familiar and, as a result, I was stuck in this relationship for years. I did hope that, one day, someone would save me and make my life better, but no one came.
Pleasure, happiness, and self-love did not exist in my life; it was about coping and surviving. Until the moment I turned my life around.
After an “intense big explosion” within the DV relationship, I was finally ready to leave. Four months pregnant with my second child, it was time to take control, responsibility, and charge of my own life—and those of my children. So I made the brave first step to break free from Domestic Violence. It was one of the best and most significant decisions in my life.
Even though I was a single mother with two very young children, and living in a different country without family or government support, I was determined to create a better life for us.
That was the moment my personal pleasurelit journey began. From zero! I remember being so scared that I recorded videos for my children, saved them on a USB, and gave them to my friend, just in case something happened to me. Even though I was afraid for my life, this confirmed that it was the right decision to leave that relationship.
The first morning I woke up after I left, I remember watching a beautiful sunrise from the window of the small, one bedroom apartment I shared with my two children. I was able to breathe fully; I felt empowered. It felt like a new chapter, a fresh start to create a better life for us.
What helped me to make those changes from surviving to thriving? This is what you will find out in this book.
I found The Pleasurelit Way with its Pleasure Pathways and Portals to Pleasure. From weight lifting and healthy eating to self-pleasure and Kink, it is all connected, and it started with one brave step: Saying NO to being mistreated and not letting others stop or control me anymore. I turned my feelings of being scared into fuelling my motivation for a better life.
A few months after settling into our own space, I started to share my journey and learnings over social media and my business was born: to help others to become their best version of themselves and live their most pleasurable life. Sharing my journey and helping others was healing and motivating me to create positive change.
I have come a very long way. I was a young woman who didn’t love herself, who didn’t value herself, who let others take advantage of her and was close to giving up. Now, I am a confident, pleasure-embodied woman who is deeply—and I mean truly, deeply—in love with herself. An empowered woman who can set healthy boundaries and ask for her needs and desires to be met. I have reclaimed my life, my self-love, my pleasure, and my happiness. I experience pleasures I have never thought possible. And if I can make this change, so can you!
Your self-love is the foundation of your happiest, most successful, and most pleasurable life!
—Pleasurelit Patricia
It all starts with YOU! Once I took my life into my own hands, it changed for the better. Self-love, pleasure, and happiness are very much connected. One leads to the other, and vice versa. That is why you will notice that The Pleasurelit Way focuses on your self-love and your connections to your body, mind, and soul. It is all interconnected, and it is YOU who matters most. Even if you only picked up this book to experience more sexual pleasure in the bedroom, you will benefit from implementing The Pleasurelit Way approach.
Available on the 9th of July 2025 - Mark this day in your calendar!
I am very excited for you to experience The Pleasurelit Way! It will transform your life!
With love & pleasure,
Patricia